KINE 198 Chapter 7
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Relationships in General
- Positive self-worth (How do you look at yourself)
- Compromise
- Trust
- Open Communication (Actions speak louder than words"
On the note of communication...
Arguing Effectively
- Stay with the initial issue
- Stay in the present
- Say what you feel
- Do not generalize
- Do not threaten
- No violence
- State needs as specific requests
- Work toward a solution
Dating
- Will bumps in the road break the relationship?
- Dealing with arguments
- Jealousy
- normally caused by a lack of self-esteem
- YOU? Look in your past and identify what happened
- OTHER? Reassure him or her that there is no reason for jealousy
Social Networking has thrown many wrenches in the system. Facebook doesn't control your life!
Love
- Intimacy
- Passion
- Commitment
- Consummate Love
- all three parts
- Liking
- Intimacy only
- Infatuated Love
- Passion only
- Empty Love
- Commitment only
- Companionate Love
- Passion and Commitment
- Romantic Love
- Intimacy and Passion
- Fatuous Love
- Commitment and Passion
Breaking Up
- Sender
- Be tactful, open, and honest
- Don't ignore the other person
- Receiver
- Listen and don't respond with desperation
- Remember feelings are very different and personal with each individual
Marriage
10 Characteristics of a happy marriage
- Giving
- Strong sense of commitment
- Not lost in relationship
- Consummate sex
- Talking (communication)
- Positive outlook
- Appreciation/praise for other
- Shared spiritual/religious morals
- Recognize needs of other
- Willing to grow, change, and work hard at their marriage
Unhealthy Relationships =
Warning Flags:
- Insecurity (does the other person make you feel bad)
- Low self-esteem
- Dishonesty on either part
- More hurtful feelings than good feelings
- Complaining to others
- Unable to talk or resolve differences
Aftermath becomes a mental-health risk:
- Afraid of your partner
- Comings and goings are monitored
- Partner controls who you can talk to
- Sex forced against will
- Told what to wear
- Abused for looking at another person
- Threatened to harm anyone or anything close to you
Cycle of abusive relationships:
- Honeymoon phase - Apologies, flowers, unicorns, butterflies, and rainbows: "it's all better now"
- Tension building
- Explosion - Violent act